I’m Single, Part 4: A Whole Person

I may be more sensitive than most in this area but I feel like there is a perception in Christian circles that singles are looked at as incomplete. I may be the only single who may feels this way, and that is totally fine but I am putting it out there. I am a whole person because I have Christ. I am in complete in Him. I don’t know if I am the only one, but I don’t like being defined by my relationship status (or lack thereof) because it may never change. What stays the same is who I am in Christ.

Being single is not an alternative lifestyle (thanks Baby Mama for that fantastic one-liner). Singles are no less of a person, the Lord is not punishing us by withholding marriage. We are simply in a different season of sanctification. We are just being pushed to the cross in a different way. We have to keep moving forward in pursuit of the Lord, just like anyone who is married. I don’t have a spouse pushing me to the cross but I do have friends and family that remind me of what is to seek the Lord first.  There have been moments recently that my opinion was cast aside because of my relationship status.  I was told I had no validity on the matter because I wasn’t married. To be honest, it hurt and it hit a button that I didn’t know I had. I dwelled on it for a while but I eventually moved on.  It made me feel small and insignificant but then the Lord reminded me that I am His and that is what truly matters.

Scripture never once promises us marriage and the Lord does not promise that He will remove that desire from our hearts. He does however promise us peace and joy when our minds our steadfast on Him (Isa. 26:3). While we abide in Him, He gives us opportunities to work through our flesh and continue to live life with joy despite wanting to be in another situation. We can find contentment in any all circumstances. It is not easy but it is possible. I am content where I am and confident of His sovereign plan at but still am honest about where I would like to be.  I have my hope set in the Lord.

The only love we need to complete us is the love of Jesus Christ. The only act of sacrificial love we need already happened 2,000 years ago on the cross. End of Story. It is Christ and nothing else. That does not change based on life stage, relationship status, or age. I only definition I need is from my Savior. I am complete in Him (Colossians 2:10-15) am free in Christ (Romans 8:1-2), I am a new creation (2 Cornthians 5:17), I am rooted in Him (Colossians 2:6-7). This will never change even as my life does.  I am okay. I am not missing anything.  i am complete because of Christ.

I am a whole person.


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